Reply to PostLove/Addiction
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I agree with you Pink and I feel as frustrated as you do about MerDer. I have never been disgusted with a Grey's episode like I was last week--except for the finale. Portraying Derek's knight-in-shining-armour, loves-her-more-than-anything, totally-gets-her love for Meredith as an ADDICTION just infuriates me. All the relationships were portrayed as addictions! what planet does Shonda come from anyhow?Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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Love is an addiction in a way, sometimes it can be a bad thing and most of the time it is a good thing. Love can heal and help in a way that nothing else can and that is addictive. I think that right now, it is hurtful to Derek, but not necessarily a debilitating addiction. I think that at this point he would rather stick it out with Meredith then not have her at all. I have a feeling that by sticking it out, he and she will grow closer together and become a more healthy and normal couple. It will take time because Meredith is so damaged, but I think that she is well on her way to healing. She has even voiced her problems out loud. Admitting there is a problem is the first step in solving it. I think that what Meredith's voice over said at the end is so true for Derek and Meredith right now, "Still, they say you don’t kick the habit until you hit rock bottom, but how do you know when you’re there? Because no matter how badly a thing is hurting us, sometimes letting it go hurts even worse." They have both admitted the problems they have, now they can go about the business of changing it. I think that Derek will go about trying to make his love for Meredith more healthy. I think that he knows that he cannot leave her because he loves her too much, but he also wants to love her well. To do that he is going to love her at the point she is at, and where she is, is at a place where sex is all she can handle. I think that if Derek can let the other things go and he will get them back in the way he really wants. They say you have to let something go to see if it comes back, if it comes back it is really yours. If he can hold on, I am positive that Meredith will return to him in the way that they both want.Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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I don't see anything healthy about equating genuine adult love with addiction. But what you said Matt, is what we could normally hope for in a relationship to progress--in real life. The frustration that many MerDer fans are feeling is that we are discovering over and over, that "normal" "healthy" and "healing" are not concepts that even exist in Shonda's world! Shonda's brand of dark & twisty love does not even remotely resemble real love to many of us. Even Patrick has voiced his frustrations over this! Instead its seeming more and more that Shonda's path is always going to be sadistic, cruel, hurtful, and disappointing. I cannot speak for anyone other than myself, but the ratings are doing that very clearly. You are welcome to think the fun is back, to enjoy the ride, or whatever. For me, I prefer honesty about what is really happening to the one tv show I've ever really loved.Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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I just trust the show, I like it still and am not afraid to let the show play out before I totally dismiss it. Most of the time shows like this have to be watched all the way to the end to really be appreciated. It would be like only watching half of a chick flick, you would not understand it at all; you would just be left with the bad stuff that happens in the middle. Maybe I just have more faith that Shonda is not going to let me down. I see this as being more real than most of the stuff we see on TV. People have a hard time changing and this show reflects that. By the way, Patrick has said that he is really loving this season in all the interviews and so is everyone else. I just hate to see you all give up because it got hard! Stick with it like Derek!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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Honest discussion is not the same thing as giving up. And getting hard is not the same thing as getting bad. There is still much I like about the show as well. I think Patrick and all of them are trying really hard this season. You are entitled to trust the show, Shonda, whomever you wish. Good luck. And for what its worth, I find what you wrote tonight alot more realistic than your "episode review". Take care!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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I think that Shonda has had her mind made-up from the very beginning of how the show would end. It is pretty much out of our hands. I started watching the show because I could relate to some of the characters. I felt connected and entertained at the same time. Lately, I have not felt the same connection. These characters seem to have a lot more problems than I ever imagined. However, I still enjoy watching the show(heart ripping at times tho it may be). My point is, as long as you are enjoying the show you will watch and stay positive hoping that it is going to end well. Once you see the show as a disappointment and no longer as entertainment, you'll quit watching.Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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Have ya'll seen the new epi. clip on grey's media? It looks like there are going to be some really good scenes of Mer/Der. The elevator is back!!!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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I love the elevator ... who doesn't!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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I love it! Looks like some great, happy Der/Mer scenes! Love this show! Hey Trisha, happy Canadian Thanksgiving! You should get online!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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Posted some great previews posted on http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2916875533 for episode 3. It really looks like the fun of season one is back!Posted 10/8/2007 1:00:00 AM #
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